grasping magic

depression is settling around me like a heavy fog. i can feel it thickening, its weight growing by the day, blocking out the light and making it more difficult to do basic tasks. everything becomes harder, slower, painful, requiring more energy and stamina than usual. my spoons are running low. i'm growing disinterested in the world around me. sometimes the beginning is the worst, because i can still remember where i was just a few days ago. once i'm in it, i'm really in it - i lose track of time, days blur together, and it's hard to tell just bad it is until i can crawl back out into the light. right now i can still make myself do things, still find joy in friends and favorite things, but it's all a bit dulled, and i know it will only get dimmer as the days pass. i hope i'm not stuck here for too long, i think, as my head slips under the water.

IMG_0353what can the cards offer me, in their wisdom and insight and kindness? today's draw is the magician, a card of purpose, action, energy, and empowerment. armed with his knowledge of all four minor suits, he sits in stillness, but plots his next move. he's confident, independent, filled with awareness. he doesn't act simply to be busy, but rather with purpose and intent, aware of his goals and the passions that drive him. the air around him shimmers with possibility, potential, something just a moment away. a brilliant sun, so similar to the radiant card i pulled just a few days ago, shines behind him, bathing him in light. his way forward is illuminated, clear, and he simply waits for the perfect moment to take that first, strong step.

i've only drawn this card once before, when i was weeks into the upside-down. it was a stark reminder that even small actions can have power, that simple tools can accomplish great things, that using my energy in strong, deliberate ways can have a major impact. it's not always about huge goals, grand gestures, massive undertakings - sometimes even small steps forward is still better than standing still (or hiding underground).

i've been fighting this round of depression diligently, keeping myself busy with tasks and little goals even as i could feel the shadows lurking behind me. it felt like the moment i stopped, the second i turned around or acknowledged its presence, depression would consume me. and when i did, it did. but the magician tells a different story, reminds me of the tools at my disposal, my ability to cling to bits of light when i need it, my drive to find projects to fuel my passions. rather than simply waiting for something to arrive, there's beautiful intention in this card - the magician plans his course, gathers the resources he needs, and moves forward calmly and deliberately. IMG_1803

i'm trying to keep moving, trying to stay honest, trying to keep connections alive. i'm being brutally honest on social media right now, more than ever before. i'm making sure friends and family know where i'm at. i'm connecting with the online tarot community in new ways. i have a therapist that's aware of my mindset and is always a phone call away. i even have an emergency plan, just in case things get too dark, too heavy, too much.

but i think this is a strong card for me to meditate on and channel today. i don't have to conquer the world, or escape my depression, or achieve every goal i can come up with - i just have to grasp a little magic. and for today, that can be enough.

on isolation

some days i wake up and know that the hours ahead are going to be difficult. call it intuition, call it fear, call it whatever you like - but today is not going to be a good day, and i know it in my bones. i wish i knew how to navigate days like this, but i'm never sure what will help. i'll make a to-do list, try to distract myself with mundane but necessary tasks. i'll schedule a yoga class, take on a new project, go for a long walk with my dog. sometimes i share this feeling with those around me, but i usually just end up feeling guilty - it's easier to isolate myself, stay quiet, hide away. nothing ever quite helps, and i know that when the sun goes down and i'm alone with my thoughts, things will feel impossible. it's a scary feeling, an emptiness, a longing for relief that never comes.

IMG_0334hoping for some simple guidance and maybe even a bit of reassurance, i went to my cards - but my stalker card has once again reared its ugly head. the three of cups will not leave me alone, and i'm getting frustrated by the repetition. what are you trying to tell me?

this card showed up for the first time in early july, and has appeared four more times since, including in several spreads. i even did a stalker spread, and have resisted posting about it the last few times it's popped up for daily readings. including today, that's eight appearances in less than two months. i'm clearly missing an important element of this card, a significant message that i have to face. after so much reflection, after researching this card half to death, i'm still not sure what i don't see.

this card represents celebration, community, accomplishment, beauty, joy, friendships, giving and receiving, compassion, sensitivity, harmony, positive energy, creativity, good times. it's so positive, a card of contentment, understanding, feeling whole and accepted. and yet this card's constant appearance brings a sense of dread, seems to mock my loneliness and isolation. if my community values me so much, why do i feel locked out of it? if contentment is present, why do i feel so miserable? if compassion and sensitivity are all around me, why do i feel alone and misunderstood?

reaching out is so difficult for me, and i hate doing it. everything in me resists. but this card feels like a lecture, forcing me to continue asking for help from people i feel don't care about me very much. this card brings out shame in me, makes me feel embarrassed and contrary and just plain sad. i wish that a card with so much joy and love wrapped into its meaning didn't make me feel completely alone, but somehow, it does.

what do you do when a card feels so wrong?