on isolation

some days i wake up and know that the hours ahead are going to be difficult. call it intuition, call it fear, call it whatever you like - but today is not going to be a good day, and i know it in my bones. i wish i knew how to navigate days like this, but i'm never sure what will help. i'll make a to-do list, try to distract myself with mundane but necessary tasks. i'll schedule a yoga class, take on a new project, go for a long walk with my dog. sometimes i share this feeling with those around me, but i usually just end up feeling guilty - it's easier to isolate myself, stay quiet, hide away. nothing ever quite helps, and i know that when the sun goes down and i'm alone with my thoughts, things will feel impossible. it's a scary feeling, an emptiness, a longing for relief that never comes.

IMG_0334hoping for some simple guidance and maybe even a bit of reassurance, i went to my cards - but my stalker card has once again reared its ugly head. the three of cups will not leave me alone, and i'm getting frustrated by the repetition. what are you trying to tell me?

this card showed up for the first time in early july, and has appeared four more times since, including in several spreads. i even did a stalker spread, and have resisted posting about it the last few times it's popped up for daily readings. including today, that's eight appearances in less than two months. i'm clearly missing an important element of this card, a significant message that i have to face. after so much reflection, after researching this card half to death, i'm still not sure what i don't see.

this card represents celebration, community, accomplishment, beauty, joy, friendships, giving and receiving, compassion, sensitivity, harmony, positive energy, creativity, good times. it's so positive, a card of contentment, understanding, feeling whole and accepted. and yet this card's constant appearance brings a sense of dread, seems to mock my loneliness and isolation. if my community values me so much, why do i feel locked out of it? if contentment is present, why do i feel so miserable? if compassion and sensitivity are all around me, why do i feel alone and misunderstood?

reaching out is so difficult for me, and i hate doing it. everything in me resists. but this card feels like a lecture, forcing me to continue asking for help from people i feel don't care about me very much. this card brings out shame in me, makes me feel embarrassed and contrary and just plain sad. i wish that a card with so much joy and love wrapped into its meaning didn't make me feel completely alone, but somehow, it does.

what do you do when a card feels so wrong?